Real life Dating vs MP

[Barcode]

Ok I have been seeing the same MP for an extremely long time, and it just keeps getting better all the time.

I thought for the sake of mental balance, and experiment, I should re-try the dating scene. I did. Know what, I just could not get into the same intensity (no where near) as with MP. Although the girl I took out was very nice and fairly attractive, I just could not get into doing the same things as I do with my sweet MP. With the MP everything is just natural and it happens.

Has anyone experienced this - maybe married guys seeing their wives after MP experience and found it REAL disappointing.

I think I am just going to keep seeing MP - it works. It works, I'm happy - have to do what feels right re ur gut feelings, right?

 

[maggie]

Please tell me that you're kidding.

 

[Teala]

Let me give you a clinical diagnosis...
It's called: LIKEYTOFUCKYONLYDIRTYGIRLS

Yeah, go with it...

kkarn/

 

[SUPAMAn]

I agree... if it works for you and you're happy, then why not?

But keep this in mind: if she keeps taking your money, you're a customer. As long as you're OK with that, there is no reason for you not to see her. Just dont confuse it with reality, because no matter what she tells you, you're not the only one who gets special treatment, extras and her phone #.

 

[Kelley E]

Yeah the truth is that few women have the sexual knowledge and experience of an MP or escort. They are literally the girls straight from our fantasies. There are rare exceptions but they are difficult to find and probably as costly as any MP.

 

[mrcarrotsayshi]

1. Your comment made me think of something. When I was in high school, I went out with a really neat girl. She had a lot of experience, but she took a lot of teasing at school, being called a slut, etc.

When we went out, we got along great. I also took a lot of teasing for going out with her. While there was some validity to her previous experience, it was embellished.

Bottom line was I always had a great time, sex and non sex. Many of my friends did not with the girls they went out with.

2. I think there are good numbers of women out there who are really bad at sex, guys too i guess but don't have any experience there.... not that there is anything wrong with that.... ooh never mind.

3. Mitch, Point is to find one you are compatible with, names for one person wouldn't work for another person.

4. Wondering if any guys found it difficult to go through the act with their wives - perhaps boring after the excitement of seeing someone proficient.

 

[dearjonny]

Actually, a visit to the MPA often makes me appreciate and enjoy my encounters with my wife even more. This, and the fact that the MPA is fantastic, I am one happy camper, I guess.

 

[Troll]

Can't say that 'encounters' with the wife are boring after the MPA, although I never go to high-mileage MPAs. At least with wife it's real, and she'll let me know what pleases her and what doesn't, whereas the MPA is paid to pretend to enjoy every single one of our clumsy gropes...

 

[Roadrunnermike]

Like I said, IMO, sex is all a mind game. Some of the best sex I've ever had (thinking back on it) was with some of the most inexperienced types.

I do however have a theory that some guys get off on the idea of being with a women that is with so many, sort of like the "Please fuck my wife" series of porn.

kkarn/

 

[max p]

" I don't pay women to come and F@#$ Me, I pay women so they will leave after I have F@#$ them".

 

[nOtPoOdLe]

Charlie Sheen is a bit of an arse anyway.

For me these 1/2 or hour MP experiences are a fantasy world that we enter every week or two or whatever. From the experience at the front desk to the wait on the couch, watching the other clients and their state of uneasiness, taking in the other fantasy girls as they walk by. Wondering what your fav MPA is wearing, knowing that she will excite your loins when you see her. The initial hug, the wait after you've (properly showered), the conversation, catching up, the touching, the intimacy, the eye contact, breathing in her aroma, the laughs, the fourplay, giving her pleasures. The happy ending is great too, especially if there's an encore.

Sometimes "F@#$"ing is over-rated. Sorry, gotten off topic.

If you really have a thing for her, ask her out for a coffee or lunch. The adult industry has changed. Some of the most respected and intelligent women are involved in the biz. They do it because they can't make anywhere near the money working in an office environment. The smart ones have a backup plan, they play safe, build a nest egg and keep their eyes open for better opportunities. They develop a "gathering" of clients that keep coming back. Some of the returnees, they actually enjoy and look forward to spending time with them. If she does't seem willing to go out, don't get pissed off, and don't stop seeing her. Just take comfort in knowing that you click in the confines of the spa.

 

[Terrex C]

Ok here is the dilema.... there is no massage involved.... it has really turned into a love making session. And a very intense one.

The lady involved is my dream girl, physically as well as personality. Because we really click, I am totally turned on by her, and hence totally worship her.

I do stuff with her I would frankly, be turned off by doing with anyone else.

Believe me, she really benefits too and appears to enjoy as well.


Now when I went out with people in real life, I found them bland, and could not get into them physically as I got into her.

It is not just physically with us either - we seem to be on the same wave length, some how.

I really, really enjoy what we have going - my fear, however, is I may end up expecting too much from "real life". What we have going seems perfect.

I have thought about this a long time, and this person makes me really happy, so I am just going to keep it going.


Does this sound silly to anyone - I sometimes go out, especially with women from work, just to go out - for drinks or lunch or whatever. Just social. And I see this MP very frequently for a very intense love making session.

It just friggin works some how. Seems I never got to such a level before either inside or outside of the MP world.

 

[Markus]

Sounds like this lady takes you to a whole new level. Maybe you should try dating one more time, only this time, give the lady an envelop with appropriate tribute, just as things are getting hot. Maybe that will help take it to the next level.


In all seriousness, what you have going sounds great, but I think I can see your dilemma. While you know on a rational level that what you have with the MPA is not "real life", on an emotional level, it may be screwing up your expectations when it comes to "real life" dating. Its hard to know what to do. The key is "she really benefits too" or is it "she is a great actress who makes me feel great for a pay check?" I think I would try to make the situation with the MPA more like "real life" by inviting her to get together outside of work. Because either you are just fooling yourself (not good!) or she feels something special too. Fooling yourself and having a one hour fantasy are not the same thing. As good as a one hour session on a massage table can be, its not really the same thing as real life girlfriend. A little bit of fantasy is one thing, but if it is seriously interferring with real life relationships, I think I'd choose real life over illusion, fantasy and paid sex, no matter how good it is. Besides, if it is just work for her, she eventually is going to move on and you get dumped. How is that going to feel?

I hope you will let us know what you decide to do.

 

[LadyJaneGrey]

Well, no doubt will stay seeing my MP. Going to keep trying the dating scene, but I need to really refocus on dating. Hard I guess to meet someone who really clicks with you. You can, but it is alot of hit and miss to get there. Maybe I need time off from it (the dating stuff). You know, just take time off and go back later.

Actually I find the best dates are when you just go out and have fun with a sort of female friend... have some of those... then you just have a good time.


God I hate ultimatums, but damn it - will continue with MP.

 

[xEmmywemix]

I found that really funny re the envelope on a date.

That has to be tried one day just to see the reaction.

I should have tried that with my wife!

Anyway to clarify I consider the next level is really getting into someone. Nothing great about sex with someone you are not into.

 

[cap d]

So you are really into it with this MPA, but you aren't really into it with the women you have been dating. Give it time. I don't see why you would expect to be really attracted to just anyone. Casual dating is just casual. You go out and you have a good time. Hopefully you will meet someone you can really get into before too long.

Yes, I thought you might like the cash in the envelop idea. The envelop gives the transaction just the right amount of class, don't you think?

 

[Collier P]

I have met some just regular women who were incredibly sexual.

Without a doubt the most sexual woman I ever met was a single mom from Brampton. Sounds funny, but she LOVED to please a man. It really did it for her. Unfortunately, the stars weren't in alignment for her and I.

And without a doubt, I have met a few very sexual MPAs. The late great Sydney comes to mind as a beautiful, intelligent, incredibly sexual woman.

Just because a woman is not in the sex industry does not mean she won't be sexual.

Part of me thinks that being a sexual being is something that you are born with, or perhaps it is imprinted on your being when you are a baby. (Mothers who lavish affection on their babies produce people who love intimacy?)

dunno.

JMHO.

 

[Lucky]

1. James so right.... some people are sexual beings, some cold fish. I would hazard to guess most massageplanet.netites, MP s and customers are sexual beings, and I would venture to say more so than the general population.

2. Another thought about the envelope.... you don't save much money dating, if that is your thing.

3. Good comment about stars not in alignment - you really need that.

4. AS FATE WOULD HAVE IT - yesterday, out of the blue, someone from my past, who I always loved dearly contacted me after a bit of absence - going to meet up. Don't want to get high expections, but you don't know if you don't try, right?

5. The dating scene really is a tiring process to go through. Really you need to take a break from it time to time.

6. Through this whole dilema, and I know many of you think I have gone beserk, I have actually had a good, but tiring time, and been able to laugh at the whole situation.

7. Bottom line - "If the stars are in alignment" and it feels comfortable, isn't that what is important?

8. Continuing number 7, - the MP I have met has been a true blessing in my life - to me, got to rank tops as anyone I have ever had a relationship with. Everything just feels right.

 

[ruckus1837]

Did I miss something milehigh, have you actually seen your special attendant outside the place of business? If anything its great you're enjoying such sessions, but I learned unless both attendant and client aren't willing to take it beyond the confines of a room. Then that

 

[barbara v]

To clarify last question:

1) The present Special MP - No I am not seeing her outside work.

2) I have seen a number to varying degrees outside work in the past. One in particular have known for years and years... we are actually best friends.

3) Yes, had a long relationship with MP outside work in past.

4) See the movie "RepliKate" It is about a science experiment where a bomb shell is programmed with qualities to be the perfect woman... i.e. likes sex and sports all day long.

5) On point #4 - there is no perfect woman. Well there is, actually - see # 1.


6) Ok I am going to go REAL SLOW SO EVERYONE UNDERSTANDS. You have a date with a civilian woman.... you enjoy the good points of that. You see your MP, you really really really enjoy the good points of that. You see other women, take them out to lunch or whatever, enjoy the good points of that.

7) Where I am going here is that no one is perfect... you have to live with reality. If you take pieces of good in everyone, isn't that good? Isn't that a great life?

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