Looking for an advice to get my head straight)

[Kazanova]

These girls are so sweet and sexy, they make us feel especial, and that's what we want, but sometimes we forget it's just entertainment. I don't blame the girls. Some of them are irreplaceable, even if we find similar girls. They are like sirens calling sailors to drown them with their sweet calls( like in those greek tails ), is up to us to keep it real. Three of them wanted me to be their "boyfriend " but I knew they were dating other guys so I didn't fall for it, but somehow still hurts a bit. Ha ha! Just don't see the same girl over and over again cause they take you for granted and you will be the one giving them a massage ha ha! Always treat them well so they miss you more than you miss them, in case you stop seeing them.

Drama. I had absolutely my best solo session ever with her. We just hit it off, two people who honestly liked each other. I didn't want to leave; she didn't want me to leave,so I didn't leave for a while. I went back a few days later to drop off a thank you card and she was there, and she came out and we sat and talked for a half an hour or longer on the couch out front. That's when she gave me her number. I don't know where she is right now; I suppose I could text her and ask. She's no longer working there.
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These pictures are absolutely not photoshopped. I can't understand how her body has not been affected by gravity.

Yea wow as well.

 

[Kazanova]

I just keep everything basic. I don't really engage in conversation while gets rubbed but I do respond in short, just to avoid awkward drops of silence. But if and usually when I keep quiet during the rub (I think) the mpa sees I'm easygoing.

The first girl I ever repeated with however, had nothing to do with her talking to me during our first session. It was the level of service she provided and the fact she let it be understood she aims to please at her job with all her clients. Spoke openly of her other types of clients and busy times.

Typically, I wouldn't believe a mpa would share info on other clients to keep the feeling of being special with the client at the moment. (Like my mindset in my first few sessions of being the only appointment of her day).

As for frequency, I get paid every 2 weeks so sometimes I go a week on then 2 off. So in 2 months 4-6 times. I was tempted to do a two a day a couple of times but these Premier Spa girls left me more than satisfied.

Yea thats probably the best approach.

 

[IronHearted]

You need to compartmentalize - life is life, hobby is hobby. wife is wife. whore is whore.

 

[JB Bats]

Have you ever got a number from MP how do you approach that if she does?

Just once so far. She asked if I wanted to hang out so she gave me her number. Nothing's happened so far, but I still see her in the MP pretty regularly. I can't imagine I'm the only person she's offered that to, so for me it was purely casual to take the number and text her. No harm no foul.

 

[daniella.perla]

Hey guys...

Don't forget we (attendants) are human too. We also have feelings and sometimes we can't separate them either.

 

[mastiram]

Hey guys...

Don't forget we (attendants) are human too. We also have feelings and sometimes we can't separate them either.

Be my girl and I will keep you happy. You got up early sweet heart

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[newtothis82]

Hey guys...

Don't forget we (attendants) are human too. We also have feelings and sometimes we can't separate them either.

I don't think anybody is saying attendants aren't human babe. I just think keeping the emotional aspect out of this is best for both sides. Let's stick to a fun fantasy....I personally think ladies lead guys on way too much in this biz. I have been the super nice guy alot and too be honest...it doesn't pay. That's all good...like I said it's a fantasy .

 

[JEG]

OP: the question for yourself is where do you want to go?

Can you see yourself dating a girl who has a large list of male customers, can you put it out of your head, knowing what she does for a living. That is the only question you need to answer.
Of course, maybe you are of the mindset that you will "rescue" her, good luck with that.

Most girls ( including sex-workers ) think that a guy that pays for sex is a loser, so you start off at the bottom of the barrel. In my experience, it is all about the money and if you find that the lady in question is extracting money instead of exchanging feelings and mutually enjoyable time together, it is time to jump ship and get in the lifeboat to come ashore. You may be surprised, finding your soulmate in the most unusual place you ever thought you would find her.

In the house of the rising sun

 

[Hank]

OP: the question for yourself is where do you want to go?

Can you see yourself dating a girl who has a large list of male customers, can you put it out of your head, knowing what she does for a living. That is the only question you need to answer.
Of course, maybe you are of the mindset that you will "rescue" her, good luck with that.

Most girls ( including sex-workers ) think that a guy that pays for sex is a loser, so you start off at the bottom of the barrel. In my experience, it is all about the money and if you find that the lady in question is extracting money instead of exchanging feelings and mutually enjoyable time together, it is time to jump ship and get in the lifeboat to come ashore. You may be surprised, finding your soulmate in the most unusual place you ever thought you would find her.

In the house of the rising sun

Thanks Jeg for your honest opinion..

The "rescue" part made me reflect....

 

[JEG]

Thanks Jeg for your honest opinion..

The "rescue" part made me reflect....

Most guys are of that opinion, when my wife was dancing, I put out of my head everything about the job and left it to her to hang up the G-string, both she and I never looked back, although I admittedly kept my interest in naked women. Three years ago I got caught, my wife gave me the talk and offered to leave, no strings, if that is what I wanted.

 

[Tsaps]

Like Daniella said:
Don't forget we (attendants) are human too. We also have feelings and sometimes we can't separate them either.

Perhaps the lady gave you her number taking a chance at having some normality in her life and you knowing what her occupation is will not be a shock and that you could accept her.
These girls are human with feelings just like you and I .
Then of course some are just in for the $$.

 

[ManzMan1982]

You have to take this hobby for what it is - a way to have fun by the hour with the currency issued by the Canadian govt. You see, you go to work and you earn some money. Then, you save up a little bit and you go visit these girls who do things for you MUCH FASTER and LESS EXPENSIVELY than a girlfriend or wife would do. A wife will cost you north of $1,000 per sexual encounter. A girlfriend will be north of $400 per encounter and a sex-worker will cost you about $250 per hour. The wife will drive you crazy and take half your property (or more). The girlfriend will leave you and waste the money you once had during your time together. The sex worker will just do a straight, fair exchange at $250 per hour.

These sex workers don't like you or me, they don't like sexy. They like fast, easy money. That's it.

I know none of the girls I see give 2 shits about me. I don't care about them either. It is just entertainment to amuse myself and for them, to line their pockets with trip and clothing money.

Take me for example, I asked Daniella to have a child with me. She hasn't given me an answer yet. If she says yes, great. If she refuses, no loss as her and I never knew each other before a few months ago anyways. Nothing changes win or lose. Just take it easy and have fun.

I need to reply to Ursus! Bro, you admit to "knowing" Daniella for a few months and you asked her to have a child with you? And you expect an actual YES answer to be possible? HASTE THY CONSIDERED TALKING TO A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL INSTEAD OF A MASSAGE PROFESSIONAL? Maybe even ease up on providing "sound advice" to others on the board? Good chat! Learnt a lot!

 

[krayjee]

We are all human being, we do tend to fall in love with someone no matter who they are and what professions they are from. I have seen a filthy rich good looking lady fell in love with her driver, I had also seen some of my relatives fell in love with their maids and got married. Shit happened in all walks of life.

The only difference is in this sex industry, there is no real love and loyalty in here, it's just a game. It all depends on who plays better. Of course these ladies are well experienced and they usually know how to play the game much better than us. I have been played real good in my early yrs in this hobby and it was a very expansive lesson which I learnt a hard way. I am pretty sure we have so many guys in here who have been through this all just like me.

I have fallen in love with some MPAs and I have had a few MPAs who had fallen in love with me. Those MPAs who had fallen in love with me have their own boyfriends as well and yet some seem like and can even make you believe they can't live without me. I have to tell them, it's not love, it was just attachment after spending too much time together, especially those who came over and spent 2-3 nights a week with me.

Now I think I have mastered the game a bit better and playing quite well. Even then there were times I lose a bit of self control and have to remind myself from time to time and see different girls to divert my feelings else where. That's why I always make sure I have at least 2-3 favs in hands all the time. The best way to play this game is be upfront and tell them you are not here looking for love, you are there to have fun and all you want is a one hr girlfriend. Treat them well with respect. Know what they want to hear, tell them things those that make them feel like they are someone special for that hr you were with them.

"Women are emotional creatures, not the logical ones, if you know how to open that secret doors in their lives and are welcomed in, they become your play ground". You will be surprised how well it works out for me with this I am a dog just want to have fun approach. There are always some who just want to have fun just like us and they will drop all their guards. They don't want someone clinging to their lives. Its all about business to them or just plain fun.

btw...I am not young and handsome nor loaded like the OP and Temporary123. I am a frkn old fart pinching pennies with my small pension money, skinny and ugly but I am still doing quite alright with ladies for some reasons which I myself cannot explain or understand what they see in me.

Remember, this is not the place to find love.

 

[Sybarite]

Some ladies might give their numbers because they are only human and seek personal connection just like everyone else.

On the other hand, many do this because it's simply another very effective means to keep their clients hooked and the $$$ rolling in.

As in other cases, don't allow yourself to start believing you're the only one who is getting this "special" treatment.

 

[Sybarite]

...I have been the super nice guy a lot and to be honest...it doesn't pay.

I'm curious to hear more about your experience. What did you find were the downsides of being a nice guy? Why didn't it pay? Do you think other approaches might work better? Have you tried other approaches yourself? Please let us know thanks.

 

[Roman]

Hey guys...

Don't forget we (attendants) are human too. We also have feelings and sometimes we can't separate them either.

Yes Daniella, sometimes it works both ways. You are the most honest and open mpa that I have met.

 

[playfulfun]

Hey guys...

Don't forget we (attendants) are human too. We also have feelings and sometimes we can't separate them either.

When 2 people get to know each other it is only natural for feelings to enter into it. Sometimes these feelings become very strong. I have been in love with someone in this business who claimed she loved me. She gave me her cell # and her name, date of birth, etc. This lasted 9 months and then she went on vacation, never to be seen again. My heart was broken and I swore I would never let any of these ladies get close again. But that would mean I would have to change myself. I am not willing to change who I am just to prevent an aching heart. I like who I am and we are dead a long time. So live for today, enjoy the company and if you both agree then it is between you and no one else.

 

[JEG]

I hate when you realize this

 

[temporary123]

Kazanova,


You asked for advice, I would like to share mine. I made an account just for this and will delete my account soon after. If you may have any other questions, or anyone else for that matter, you can PM me. I will keep it up for 1 day. You can message me as long as it doesn't discuss my personal life. I’ve been a lurker for a very long time and read almost all the reviews and know this forum inside and out. I am not a professional in this game, never went to the premier chain for example; Just know I am professional in life, and know to not play it further after today… I have long ago in the past, for a brief time in my life, dabbled in this game just enough to not experience what you are experiencing, but understand what it is entirely from those experiences. I know where playing this game ultimately leads too.. Destruction. Let’s just say there was a deeper reason why you decided to create this message and ask for advice. I needed to see this too and had to respond.


To be blunt, and to the point… You need to stop seeing her… Immediately. Avoid her like the plague. Find a good girl, with morals, meek in speech and action, A girl who will love you and only you, forever and show that passion in public and behind closed doors. When you find her, you will become not two people but one person. Find one you know will always be by your side. Your life will be one filled with happiness and good things if you do so. You will find her if you know who YOU must be as a person first and fore-most. Chase wisdom before chasing girls and the one girl worth more than all of them will enter into your life in due time. Guaranteed.


If you don’t want to read further that’s what you need to do, but I am sure maybe something might resonate if you continue further.


Woman generally think with their emotions and not rational, logical reasoning to come to conclusions. That girl you went on a date with read you like a book because she, and virtually every woman know how to play with emotions because they are emotional persons generally. It’s rare for men to what she did because we are different persons entirely, thinking with rational and logic, but have some emotions at moments in time (Love, death, life etc.). Woman love to exploit this fact because when men become very emotional, they become it entirely in certain moments. Which is what you experienced when you said ‘pure energy’. ( I am not a woman hater I love woman, a-lot...)


These small talks you are experiencing aren’t simply small talks. Those ‘small talks’ are trying to pull you in until you dig a deep, dark, hole/pit/grave that you will never be able to get out of.


You are asking what is wrong with you, there is nothing wrong with you. What you are involving yourself with is wrong… You deep down know it is pulling at your soul.


You are saying you don’t care for the sex, but only want to see her… It is a trap bro don’t do it. You are unsure whether or not to see her because you do not know exactly who she is… She isn’t just a beautiful woman, but something else entirely if you have the eyes to see and ears to hear. Those girls there are very cold-stone business people you are correct. Colder than dry ice. I know this as well because I am in business and dealt, and continue to deal with the coldest stone people imaginable in my short time being in it.. You may not want to hear it and I’ll probably get ripped apart here but I’d like to say exactly who that premier chain girl is through a quote not made by my own accord….


“the lips of an adulterous woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; flatters with her words and lips she seduces thee, but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths wander aimlessly but she does not know it.”


To be completely honest, briefly mentioning my personal life.. I don’t consider myself pretty -good looking. I know I am very good looking because woman just generally like to tell me that, all the time. I Get compared to celebrities and such as well. Till this day, since even High-school I’ve been called the foreign guy, tanned skin with the muscles seen in the movies that all the woman young and old love to flock too. Even dudes have tried hitting on me and I’m not even homosexual. Even when I was very young, woman knew I was going to be very good-looking and told that to my parents and to myself. I kid you not when I was an infant even, some girl that saw me (family friend at the time) was already down to marry me…. I’m 23 years old by the way. Not only that, but I’m also in a position where I won’t feel $250 poorer even if I decided to go to premier virtually every day of the week.. It’s because the rich simply keep on getting richer. It is just the family I was born into allows for that. I am already in a position where I’ll never have to work for anyone in my life ever again and I am already set for life. Don’t even have to work now if I don’t want to.


I would like to apologize to anyone that may see this offensive in any way. I apologize for any spelling or grammatical issues this message may have. All I’m saying is the truth and I hope, just maybe someone can take something from this. Most specifically you Kazanova.


I wish all the best and take care to all those reading this.

 

[imyourpuppet]

Hard to separate sex and feelings? Welcome to the club.

That in essence is the issue here. You HAVE to remember at the end of the day it's a business transaction. Your money is what's most important to the SP/MPA, even if they do genuinely like you and you have sexual chemistry. Take this for what it's worth. I've been seeing SW's for about 8 years now. I've been around the block a few times. I've dated 2 strippers and 2 MPA's during that time. Not once did any of those relationships end well. It just doesn't work. Don't put yourself through the pain and stress. Enjoy the experiences as a fantasy. But still date civilian women, or else it will ruin you. When I date civilian women the first thing I think about is how well she sucks cock and whether her pussy is shaved. This hobby has objectified women to me. It will do that to you as well the longer you stay in it.