Chat 'Breaking up' with a fave is hard to do...

[xtc27]

Eesh, tried to catch up to this thread; however lots of hate for the ladies. Don't wish to pass judgement on their line of work and reasoning. And what does this say about someone like me who will give a random stranger money for sex. What baggage am I carrying.

I leaned the hardway. I can like a sp or escort and may enjoy their company in addition to sex. But once I feel that I was wronged or taken advantage, I move on. I don't even give a reason. Just stop booking and calling. Hence not going back to seeing Leonna.

I try to keep it as a business transaction. It works for me.

Leona @ Delinto? Wow... very luvable girl, could c how it could happen...

... in 1st sesh w her (as Sabrina) @ La La Wellness, was telling her I went upstairs from the back door, right across the street from the church... joked that it was prolly the Priests door!

And she exclaimed, "Oh! I love Jesus Christ!"

Not sure if this discussion would lead 2 better sex... did not pursue it... about the LAST thing I expect a Taiwanese girl to say in AMP...

 

[OG_funguy]

better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all..

Haha, words to live by...

 

[Barney_B]

I've seen your past threads and glad you found the approach that works for you.

Most of the time I also keep it business but every now and then, you just connect with an MPA. Personally, I find it much more rewarding to connect with them on a different level but to each their own...

I agree 100%. I just have them ending terrible for me. Actually, I am too immature to split any feelings from reality and constraints with her profession. Hence my business approach.

 

[MrBnH]

It is amazing how you do connect with some, but people are people and it can happen to anyone, even when I said it would not happen to me. Then I just got cut off from my go-to girl for the past 11 years......not as close as you were, but still a strong connection and lots of texts and unbelieveable good times in the bedroom, but not outside. Strictly transactional, sometimes seemed a bit more, but never crossed that line........then, boom, one text and it is over after 11 years, so it did feel funny, but is tmie to find another fave to go along iwth all the MPA's i visit...now maybe a bit longer due to lockdown. Find another and move on, I deleted the number and texts and am having fun on the hunt again.

 

[Barney_B]

Leona @ Delinto? Wow... very luvable girl, could c how it could happen...

... in 1st sesh w her (as Sabrina) @ La La Wellness, was telling her I went upstairs from the back door, right across the street from the church... joked that it was prolly the Priests door!

And she exclaimed, "Oh! I love Jesus Christ!"

Not sure if this discussion would lead 2 better sex... did not pursue it... about the LAST thing I expect a Taiwanese girl to say in AMP...

Nice lady absolutely. Seen her a few times. Booked her, confirmed the day of and while in transit as I could have gotten bumped by a walk up. Each response was she is here and waiting. Arrived and said I am here for Leona. And then someone else walks in. Leona wasn't in. I don't like being lied to.

Lots of spas and ladies out there. Everyone is replaceable
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[OG_funguy]

It is amazing how you do connect with some, but people are people and it can happen to anyone, even when I said it would not happen to me. Then I just got cut off from my go-to girl for the past 11 years......not as close as you were, but still a strong connection and lots of texts and unbelieveable good times in the bedroom, but not outside. Strictly transactional, sometimes seemed a bit more, but never crossed that line........then, boom, one text and it is over after 11 years, so it did feel funny, but is tmie to find another fave to go along iwth all the MPA's i visit...now maybe a bit longer due to lockdown. Find another and move on, I deleted the number and texts and am having fun on the hunt again.

11 years...wow. Like I said in other threads, ideally you always have a few faves so if something like this happens, you have another go-to...

 

[xtc27]

Making friends in strange situation... feels very human.

... One girl, long time friend, became gf for a few years... CHEATED on me,,, moved on2 this total loser as nxt bf... then got another bf... got in trouble (violent bf), & re-stablished our friendship... & went 2 her wedding to another dude, traveled 6 hrs away by plane. ✈

Life changing trip.

We can make fiends in really trying circumstances. Makes life really interesting.

 

[Pay2Play]

I’ve got a regular that I’ve been seeing for a maybe 6 months now. Works at a spa where girls aren’t allowed to do extras, but we do BBFS CIP every time. Last week she told me that she would love to do that outside of the spa, in a bed where we can make noise and not worry about time. She’s hot as hell and I’m tempted, but I don’t think it would be a good idea.

Do you truly believe you are special in this regard?

 

[Deleted member 64273]

I wasn't sure whether to post this or not but decided to do it in hopes of hearing from others that may have had similar experiences (a form of therapy I guess).

Anyways, I've been feeling down these days and it's because I've recently parted ways with one of my faves. I see lots of MPAs but my faves are special to me because there is a strong emotional connection, in addition to the physical attraction. I haven't posted about my faves in a long time because I've come to realize that most guys have a certain view of MPAs based on their own experiences and often extend that view to 'all' MPAs. I can understand this but have seen enough MPAs to know they aren't all the same.

The fave I'm referring to here is honestly the best MPA I have ever met and I don't say this lightly. If she opens her heart to you, there's nothing she won't do for you. I have known her for a couple of years but in the last year or so we got really close. I have seen her outside the spa countless times doing stuff that normal couples would do.

As we got closer, she started to ask questions about our "relationship". As much as I liked her, I knew a BF/GF relationship was not in the cards so I answered as honestly as I could. Little did I know, she was actually testing me. Well, I failed the test and it opened the door to another guy. I have known about him for a long time and knew she had feelings for him too but it never really bothered me before. For whatever reason, it bothers me now. We got in a fight and long story short, I told her I would not see her again. She still cares for me a lot and doesn't want us to "break up" but there's too much emotions going on now.

For anyone thinking of getting really close to an MPA, just think long and hard about it first. The rewards are great, I can't deny that. But there will always be someone that comes along that's more charming, better looking, more successful, more devoted...you get the idea. If you are the jealous type, don't even bother.


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Wow, I can almost feel the pain in your words in this post. Bro, it's probably for the best. You have a wife, right? And this fave, shed probably reaching the point in her life where she's thinking of the future. Neither of you has each other in their future plans. Living and loving in the moment can only take you so far. Better to make the break now and not when she becomes a jealous monster and shows up at your door during dinner with the family. My advice is to wish her the best and let her go. If there's a guy she likes and likes her back and can build a future with her, then wish them the best.

If you guys remain on good terms, she will likely recommend you to your next fave and so on. Relationships with a sex worker is a rabbit hole. Fun to imagine what it could be like, but in reality is just a deep dark hole that can be hard if not impossible to climb out of.

 

[xtc27]

Nice lady absolutely. Seen her a few times. Booked her, confirmed the day of and while in transit as I could have gotten bumped by a walk up. Each response was she is here and waiting. Arrived and said I am here for Leona. And then someone else walks in. Leona wasn't in. I don't like being lied to.

Lots of spas and ladies out there. Everyone is replaceable
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...similar 2 how I stopped seeing Renee @ SL... our 1st sesh= fantastic... booked again her W HER ANSWERING THE FRIGGN PHONE. She greets me @ door... then sends another girl in2 rm...

...I got up 2 leave, thru girl off my lap... gently... got dressed.... Renee suddenly appeared... Outta breath... (kinda sexy...)

...asked her why she sent someone else in, she replied, "I wanted u 2 train her..."

Damn! I posted about training msg girls 2 give HJ! True story.

• She knew my msgplanet handle.
• She read my stuff on msgplanet!
• I saw myself as client
  • She saw me as spa helper, like @ Sunshine House...
    • ... but nvr recruited me, so I didn't understand it...

...we had never agreed, so I was pissed... our chemistry was destroyed... Nvr booked her again.
I would, I don't hate her... just not tempted...

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I think in Leona's case, could b spa girls messing u up... might not b her fault... altho eerily reminiscent of what used 2 happen @ La La Wellness... & in yr shoes... did same thing... cut off

 

[OG_funguy]

Wow, I can almost feel the pain in your words in this post. Bro, it's probably for the best. You have a wife, right? And this fave, shed probably reaching the point in her life where she's thinking of the future. Neither of you has each other in their future plans. Living and loving in the moment can only take you so far. Better to make the break now and not when she becomes a jealous monster and shows up at your door during dinner with the family. My advice is to wish her the best and let her go. If there's a guy she likes and likes her back and can build a future with her, then wish them the best.

If you guys remain on good terms, she will likely recommend you to your next fave and so on. Relationships with a sex worker is a rabbit hole. Fun to imagine what it could be like, but in reality is just a deep dark hole that can be hard if not impossible to climb out of.

Thanks man. You probably never realized it but I really did take some of your comments to heart when I posted about my 'original' honey way back when I first joined this site. Yeah, it's deja vu all over again but I'm seriously in so much better shape compared to the first time around...I guess experience counts

 

[MrBnH]

I’ve got a regular that I’ve been seeing for a maybe 6 months now. Works at a spa where girls aren’t allowed to do extras, but we do BBFS CIP every time. Last week she told me that she would love to do that outside of the spa, in a bed where we can make noise and not worry about time. She’s hot as hell and I’m tempted, but I don’t think it would be a good idea.

I guess that would depend on a lot of things, like if you have a SO or not, is it still going to cost you money or is this a whole new level and then however you feel, but now the warning signs of what it really is and how it may go. I have done a few of those where it was still a cash transaction, but going to a hotel and spending some time, eating a meal and having great sex (at a hugely discounted rate) was right up my alley, but I knew it for what it was and nothing more.......make sure your eyes are open !

 

[dirtyoldman]

sorry to hear that. I know how it is and how you feel. But I just remember at the end of the day, she is treating me like she is treating all over men. And I am paying.

money money

 

[bigk23]

@kl_funguy so easy for this emotional stuff to happen to anybody.. my self imposed limits are kind of seeing them outside of the spa unless we pay them to be there. My favourite she is good about respecting our fun bond, I really hope it can remain that way for the foreseeable future. I just don't need the emotions or the drama, at one point I think she asked if I was falling for her - it was cute and all but I love my life too much. These spa visits for me are that ultimate hour or so away from reality to get spoiled and feel awesome; you pay to be able to leave it all at the door when you exit. You will get over this situation and like someone here said have fun interviewing the next series of them. i have found some awesome gems and they are all so different but eager to please! Good luck bro.. and like I told my favourite, she too will find a new awesome man one day (she was married) and he will take great amazing care for her, it just ain't going to be me

 

[Deleted member 64273]

Thanks man. You probably never realized it but I really did take some of your comments to heart when I posted about my 'original' honey way back when I first joined this site. Yeah, it's deja vu all over again but I'm seriously in so much better shape compared to the first time around...I guess experience counts

If I could keep one guy out of the same rabbit hole I fell into, or help a bro out of the hole, then all the drama that happened to me would be worth it.

 

[goodtogo1962]

The 30 or 60 minutes are to me like going to an interactive movie. I pay the money and act out my fantasies for the alloted time. The roles are very similar but the actions change depending on who I visit. It is a break from lifes constraints and rules where you follow along and adlib as you go. Just be courteous and respectful of the boundaries and sometimes they disappear. Have fun, destress and free yourself it is not only healthy but satisfying. I applaud the girls for being there during this time and visit regularly.


Cheers.

 

[Cool-Story-Bro]

The way to understand you is thinking the same way as a polygamic. Except that Polygamic people are actually in real relationships.
You and your faves have the need to get emotionally involve even sometimes knowing both have a real relationship.
There is really something missing for it to trigger that "special connection" like money, company , lifestyle, love ones, sex, etc.

Let's not forget they are giving hj for a reason and that reason is not you

But Polygamic is illegal here, it's 5 year prison with $10k penalty fine.
Better move to Texas or with Mormons or Middle-East.

 

[Cool-Story-Bro]

Y’all niggas srsly think these hoes actually feel a connection to anything other than your money? I’m surprised theres so many niggas simping over these hoes fr

Maybe they do. Never heard of Sugar mommy ?
There are plenty of them here my knee grow

 

[BmH6769]

Op did mention that he mostly dealt with semi ladies. There was a time where I only go to semi spas. I have to agree that with semi ladies, you’ll have better chance finding connections with ‘em whether it’s physical or emotional. I had one lady that I had to cut it off coz she got too clingy. You might not belea but it does happened.

There’s nothing wrong with BS attitude, most dudes are “Dine and Dash” anyways at holistic places.

 

[Kawailuvr]

I wasn't sure whether to post this or not but decided to do it in hopes of hearing from others that may have had similar experiences (a form of therapy I guess).

Anyways, I've been feeling down these days and it's because I've recently parted ways with one of my faves. I see lots of MPAs but my faves are special to me because there is a strong emotional connection, in addition to the physical attraction. I haven't posted about my faves in a long time because I've come to realize that most guys have a certain view of MPAs based on their own experiences and often extend that view to 'all' MPAs. I can understand this but have seen enough MPAs to know they aren't all the same.

The fave I'm referring to here is honestly the best MPA I have ever met and I don't say this lightly. If she opens her heart to you, there's nothing she won't do for you. I have known her for a couple of years but in the last year or so we got really close. I have seen her outside the spa countless times doing stuff that normal couples would do.

As we got closer, she started to ask questions about our "relationship". As much as I liked her, I knew a BF/GF relationship was not in the cards so I answered as honestly as I could. Little did I know, she was actually testing me. Well, I failed the test and it opened the door to another guy. I have known about him for a long time and knew she had feelings for him too but it never really bothered me before. For whatever reason, it bothers me now. We got in a fight and long story short, I told her I would not see her again. She still cares for me a lot and doesn't want us to "break up" but there's too much emotions going on now.

For anyone thinking of getting really close to an MPA, just think long and hard about it first. The rewards are great, I can't deny that. But there will always be someone that comes along that's more charming, better looking, more successful, more devoted...you get the idea. If you are the jealous type, don't even bother.


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So unfortunately in typical MPA or SP let’s just call them whores cause that’s what their job is , she had another guy in the wings just waiting to jump ship ! She probably had numerous dudes just like you unfortunately. I learned this very hard lesson a couple years ago from an MPA out the west end and she always has someone else on the hook . Whores are whores , I made the mistake and I think many men do cause we aren’t robots . So the face is just use them for what you want just as they use you bro !!! It’s a fair trade deal and NEVER EVER GO BEYOND YHE MASSAGE ROOM WITH THESE LOW CLASS WHORES