Need Advice...Crush on MPA...?

[Abyss]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

 

[M48to23]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

If you’re thoughtful enough to write this I am more than certain that you have the common sense to know the likelihood of this working out long term positively is little to none. If you wanna MoveOn and have money to do so book as many MPs before seeing her again. That said The feeling might be mutual but don’t ever let a fun time get confused with a true emotional connection. Speaking from experience.

 

[krayjee]

Been there, done that. It has happened to lots of us and lately I am seeing some guys getting attached to a very smooth lady at a well known spa. It is best not to ever fall in love with any MPA. Nothing good will ever come out of it. Most of them are very good players and You might end up with a broken heart and empty wallets. These girls have seen it all and never ever think they can fall in love with you like we do. They are seeing so many guys everyday and they can replace you with another guy anytime they want when they need it. Another thing you have to think seriously about it is will you be able to handle the fact that your girlfriend is playing with lots of dicks every day. Trust me, not that easy my friend. I used to have a girl who really fell in love with me to a point she couldn't live without me and yet she couldn't stop herself from texting with some of her fav regulars behind my back even after she quit the business. Try seeing more girls to divert your mind away from that girl.

After a very expensive lesson a few yrs back I consider myself as a good player now and taking out a few girls for fun and yet there were times I do get attached to some and have to force myself to pull away from them by switching to other girls. Now I don't let anyone sleep over at my place cuz you feel so empty the next day. It is a very dangerous game we all love to play. Just make sure you have 2-3 girls in your hand all the time in case if you need a shoulder to cry on.

 

[hardlifenorelief]

its easy to get infatuated with someone especially during "fun times".
It all comes down to what you really want.

Do you just want to spend time with her outside the spa and have fun?
or do you want to pursue an actual relationship and date her.

Either way, these girls are used to the fast life and have tons of guys that they can date at anytime.
Think about it, she gave you her number on the first visit lol and it was because she wanted you to visit her at another location.

And then you say "she hasn't offered her number to me or anything again". Why would she when she has you hooked and you keep coming back.

To me that sounds like she just likes you as a client and wanted to keep you as a client or maybe you tip well. The fact she hasn't brought the number up again or anything else, to me means she just after the money.

 

[niceandnaughty]

I have a question for you. If you actually started dating her and fell in love, would you be ok with her sucking and fucking many men everyday?

 

[Deleted member 80579]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

For sure ask for her number. If you're thinking about her this much you might as well or you'll always wonder "what if" if you don't. I won't be a Debbie Downer and say you have zero percent chance to end up with this girl but the reality is it's close to that. But that shouldn't be your goal. Speaking from experience, hanging out with and having drinks outside of the spa setting-with an MPA is very exciting and well worth it. Can it go sideways, sure but just be aware of that. As far as whether it's just business I think you'll figure that out when you ask to see her for drinks or something.

 

[cupcrazy]

I say most Asian mpas will not.meet you outside of the spa.

 

[pman]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

Enjoy this time, bro, and the fact that you are still able to feel something..

 

[OG_funguy]

This topic has been discussed many times...just go for it but don't fall in love. And be smart, it should be obvious if the girl enjoys hanging out with you or wants money from you (or something else, like papers or something)...if you get any bad signs, disengage right away.

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

 

[OG_funguy]

I think you would be surprised...

I say most Asian mpas will not.meet you outside of the spa.

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

Go for it. Enjoy it while it lasts. Know you limits! No different than any other “relationship”

 

[Old No. 7]

A few things.

She gave you her number and hasn't offered it again. Why would she? She already gave it to you.
Ask her for it again. Just tell her you lost it but would like to have it.

Then contact her and try seeing her at a different spa. See if the dynamic is different.

Continue seeing her and gently introduce the idea of seeing her outside the spa. See how she reacts. Also see if she expects you to pay for her time if you see her outside the spa. That will tell you a lot about where her head's at.

Go for it, but keep your wits about you. It won't take long to see how she feels about you.

 

[GasMan]

On the flipside, this is a high risk high reward venture.

I know someone who did meet someone at a spa, one of the major chains too.

He had seen her on and off over the years at the spa, but didn't really connect until much later. They met up outside of the spa like a regular civilian relationship a few times, she eventually introduced him to the rest of her immediate family and friends. He got her to quit the business, they did everything right including went and got each other tested for STDs that came back clear. They're now as happy as ever, she's got a regular job after finishing her higher education diploma that the spa helped her put money towards. She had an exit strategy from day 1, it just so happens to coincide with the right timing that my buddy came along near the end. They even bought a place together.

Not saying this could happen to anyone and everyone, but the small chance that it could, could happen. You just have to be careful, and see if there is a game plan for her to want to make the connection with you. In my bud's case, it was an equal thing where she planned their outings, and so did he. I'd say there was equal effort. I was skeptical as hell for him in the beginning but glad to see it somehow worked out.

A wife is to be cherished.
How can a man cherish his wife when thousands of dicks have run through her?

 

[Abyss]

If you’re thoughtful enough to write this I am more than certain that you have the common sense to know the likelihood of this working out long term positively is little to none. If you wanna MoveOn and have money to do so book as many MPs before seeing her again. That said The feeling might be mutual but don’t ever let a fun time get confused with a true emotional connection. Speaking from experience.

Been there, done that. It has happened to lots of us and lately I am seeing some guys getting attached to a very smooth lady at a well known spa. It is best not to ever fall in love with any MPA. Nothing good will ever come out of it. Most of them are very good players and You might end up with a broken heart and empty wallets. These girls have seen it all and never ever think they can fall in love with you like we do. They are seeing so many guys everyday and they can replace you with another guy anytime they want when they need it. Another thing you have to think seriously about it is will you be able to handle the fact that your girlfriend is playing with lots of dicks every day. Trust me, not that easy my friend. I used to have a girl who really fell in love with me to a point she couldn't live without me and yet she couldn't stop herself from texting with some of her fav regulars behind my back even after she quit the business. Try seeing more girls to divert your mind away from that girl.

After a very expensive lesson a few yrs back I consider myself as a good player now and taking out a few girls for fun and yet there were times I do get attached to some and have to force myself to pull away from them by switching to another girls. Now I don't let anyone sleep over at my place cuz you feel so empty the next day. It is a very dangerous game we all love to play. Just make sure you have 2-3 girls in your hand all the time in case if you need a shoulder to cry on.

I hear you guys and have tried to see other girls after the first session I had with the girl I had a crush on just to see if the feelings would change (At that time I thought hey maybe I like this girl cause of the fun we just had) but mid session with other girls the thought of the girl that I have a crush on just pops into my mind and it kills the mood and honestly my minds just not in it at that point and I just stop. And now I havent been seeing any other girls but her...

As for the question would I be okay with her playing with dicks everyday, I honestly dont know but I am guessing I wouldnt be? I know this is different if I were dating a civilian girl with a high body count and I would be able to overlook that but with this I am not sure.

 

[Abyss]

its easy to get infatuated with someone especially during "fun times".
It all comes down to what you really want.

Do you just want to spend time with her outside the spa and have fun?
or do you want to pursue an actual relationship and date her.

Either way, these girls are used to the fast life and have tons of guys that they can date at anytime.
Think about it, she gave you her number on the first visit lol and it was because she wanted you to visit her at another location.

And then you say "she hasn't offered her number to me or anything again". Why would she when she has you hooked and you keep coming back.

To me that sounds like she just likes you as a client and wanted to keep you as a client or maybe you tip well. The fact she hasn't brought the number up again or anything else, to me means she just after the money.

That could very well be true that she just likes me as a client...

 

[krayjee]

I hear you guys and have tried to see other girls after the first session I had with the girl I had a crush on just to see if the feelings would change (At that time I thought hey maybe I like this girl cause of the fun we just had) but mid session with other girls the thought of the girl that I have a crush on just pops into my mind and it kills the mood and honestly my minds just not in it at that point and I just stop. And now I havent been seeing any other girls but her...

May be you haven't met the right girl who can sway your mind yet. Is your girl from semi legit spa? If so go try out Minnie at Just Relax and see how deep your love was for your girl. Trust me, there are some really special girls who can just swept you away with their charm. I am really scared to see her. She's so addictive and you can get into trouble easily. All her customers are repeat customers and seeing her every week , most of them 90 minutes to 2 hrs just to be with her. She is the most dangerous type of girl in this business to see if you have a soft heart. I may talk tough but I have a very soft heart so I have stopped seeing her.

 

[Abyss]

For sure ask for her number. If you're thinking about her this much you might as well or you'll always wonder "what if" if you don't. I won't be a Debbie Downer and say you have zero percent chance to end up with this girl but the reality is it's close to that. But that shouldn't be your goal. Speaking from experience, hanging out with and having drinks outside of the spa setting-with an MPA is very exciting and well worth it. Can it go sideways, sure but just be aware of that. As far as whether it's just business I think you'll figure that out when you ask to see her for drinks or something.

This topic has been discussed many times...just go for it but don't fall in love. And be smart, it should be obvious if the girl enjoys hanging out with you or wants money from you (or something else, like papers or something)...if you get any bad signs, disengage right away.

Go for it. Enjoy it while it lasts. Know you limits! No different than any other “relationship”

A few things.

She gave you her number and hasn't offered it again. Why would she? She already gave it to you.
Ask her for it again. Just tell her you lost it but would like to have it.

Then contact her and try seeing her at a different spa. See if the dynamic is different.

Continue seeing her and gently introduce the idea of seeing her outside the spa. See how she reacts. Also see if she expects you to pay for her time if you see her outside the spa. That will tell you a lot about where her head's at.

Go for it, but keep your wits about you. It won't take long to see how she feels about you.

I will ask for her number the next time I see her and see how it goes from there. I do like your plan about seeing her at her other location Old No. 7, just to see the dynamic, I may try that as soon as I get her number.

 

[Abyss]

On the flipside, this is a high risk high reward venture.

I know someone who did meet someone at a spa, one of the major chains too.

He had seen her on and off over the years at the spa, but didn't really connect until much later. They met up outside of the spa like a regular civilian relationship a few times, she eventually introduced him to the rest of her immediate family and friends. He got her to quit the business, they did everything right including went and got each other tested for STDs that came back clear. They're now as happy as ever, she's got a regular job after finishing her higher education diploma that the spa helped her put money towards. She had an exit strategy from day 1, it just so happens to coincide with the right timing that my buddy came along near the end. They even bought a place together.

Not saying this could happen to anyone and everyone, but the small chance that it could, could happen. You just have to be careful, and see if there is a game plan for her to want to make the connection with you. In my bud's case, it was an equal thing where she planned their outings, and so did he. I'd say there was equal effort. I was skeptical as hell for him in the beginning but glad to see it somehow worked out.

Thats an awesome story! I am happy for your buddy and the girl on how everything worked out. Sometimes everything just aligns itself. Gives me some hope in my situation lol...

 

[Deleted member 62526]

Thats an awesome story! I am happy for your buddy and the girl on how everything worked out. Sometimes everything just aligns itself. Gives me some hope in my situation lol...

Yeah, I refer it to him as the Pretty Woman story.

At the end of the day, these women are humans too. You think they want to keep doing this for the rest of their lives? The smart ones are the ones that has an exit strategy in mind, make their money, invest it elsewhere and leave.

To you I would tell you to keep it simple at first. See if there's more than what you see on the surface. My buddy was able to be convinced when he was introduced to her family, who naturally had no idea she was doing this btw, he met her sibling, mom and other members of her family. Make sure she puts back the effort that you put in as well is another good indicator. I gave him hell for what he was doing or was looking to do, and I wasn't onboard with any of it at first. So if you have a close friend to confide this in with, to keep you accountable, it would keep you on the straight and narrow path to what you're looking to do. Good luck!

 

[ricepatty]

A wife is to be cherished.
How can a man cherish his wife when thousands of dicks have run through her?

That's a dogmatic belief, it depends on what you value in a wife. There's nothing wrong with valuing sexual purity but at its roots, stems from one's own insecurity.

For the most part, the core values that people look for in a partner are loyalty and compassion.

Her handling dicks is just a job, what she does prior to a committed relationship has no bearing on her core values.