Dating Advice

[dicktracy3003]

I am newly single for the first time in a loooooong time. I have no idea what I am doing now. Which apps should I be using? How do I meet people these days? Anyone got any advice?

 

[ObiWanPotato]

I always thought Tinder was a hook up ap. I have been to 2 weddings from tinder this summer alone. 1 was a young couple (27ish) and the other was almost 40 (he was 39, I think she was a few years younger 34ish).

worst that could happen is you hook up with someone.

 

[Hatake]

I always thought Tinder was a hook up ap. I have been to 2 weddings from tinder this summer alone. 1 was a young couple (27ish) and the other was almost 40 (he was 39, I think she was a few years younger 34ish).

worst that could happen is you hook up with someone.

What's to say people who end up hooking up on tinder can't hook their way up to marriage? lol

But in all seriousness, you are right in that most people consider a hook up ap, but there are those who use it as one of many platforms to find a potential partner.

 

[id481]

I am newly single for the first time in a loooooong time. I have no idea what I am doing now. Which apps should I be using? How do I meet people these days? Anyone got any advice?

You can try Tinder and If you’re lucky… you may meet ladies wanting one night or FWB type relationship. Not a dating expert… approaching ladies at local grocery shop works as well.

 

[Albertaman]

80% of women’s ads on Tinder say ‘No hook ups” .


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[id481]

80% of women’s ads on Tinder say ‘No hook ups” .


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Tinder 'No hook ups' = coffee date + if you can take her home... then make out on sofa and get naked in an hour.

 

[Randomrd]

Seems like Bumble may be the new go to

 

[bigbill]

My GF and I use Tinder to meet men and couples and it's been evolving into a dating app. Sure, lots of hook up seekers on it, but people looking for relationships have been drawn to it in droves.

 

[2000-Happy]

My dating advice is DON’T. Spas & escorts give guaranteed sex with an attractive woman, and its cheaper in the long run. Even the short run!

 

[Hatake]

I try to stick to a budget of $300 a month, which I sometimes don't even use for some months, and that's already a lot of money to me LOL. Is dating just as expensive these days? Kinda hard to believe that going to spas or escorts in the short term or long term is financially a better decision/cheaper.

 

[Surgeon1936]

I try to stick to a budget of $300 a month, which I sometimes don't even use for some months, and that's already a lot of money to me LOL. Is dating just as expensive these days? Kinda hard to believe that going to spas or escorts in the short term or long term is financially a better decision/cheaper.

Everybody need real person in their lives. All those spas it's just game.

 

[dicktracy3003]

Jeez, you spend $300 just on a FS session usually. $300 a month would be like two hand jobs at a semi legit. That is no way to live, orgasm wise...

 

[Hatake]

Everybody need real person in their lives. All those spas it's just game.

They are definitely game, but I just think finding someone is better for the short/long term unless you're the kind of person who has much more to lose going that traditional route. Modern dating sucks and I can see why some people go down this route (I sure did for awhile), but doing this short/long term might also not be better bang for your buck imo. That's just me though, if it works for others, more power to them.

Jeez, you spend $300 just on a FS session usually. $300 a month would be like two hand jobs at a semi legit. That is no way to live, orgasm wise...

I guess I might be more interested in the quality of the orgasm than the quantity lol. I'm honestly on my way out of the FS game because I started losing interest after losing my ATF awhile ago who I really felt a great connection to: her GFE was so good it left my brain craving a connection just like it in a relationship. I would also be lying if I didn't say $ spent wasn't also something I started getting concerned about: I think I'm down $5265 FS + Massage since August 2023.

Throw in the fact that I have personal issues with CAF, I don't want to support that platform at all, which extends to my current disinterest in seeing any of the advertisers on there as well.

Most bang for buck orgasm wise would be to DIY like I did all those years death gripping since its free lol. Plus I find that ladies often have trouble getting me to orgasm since I have ED with a HJ, so honestly not really a great experience unless I'm taking the blue pill (which is also adds to my costs).

 

[2000-Happy]

Jeez, you spend $300 just on a FS session usually. $300 a month would be like two hand jobs at a semi legit. That is no way to live, orgasm wise...

$300 is 3 handies, almost four if you take over clothes touching option ( $40 tip and $40 room fee)

 

[2000-Happy]

I try to stick to a budget of $300 a month, which I sometimes don't even use for some months, and that's already a lot of money to me LOL. Is dating just as expensive these days? Kinda hard to believe that going to spas or escorts in the short term or long term is financially a better decision/cheaper.

Dinner and a movie, you are paying everything? Easily close to $200 unless you’re going to McDs. And if you cheap out, zero chance you get laid. You gotta repeat dinner and dance/movie/zoo etc before you get a chance.

 

[baegon95]

Depends on what you want. You can't force yourself to fall in love, and if you're relatively young you're probably like User 2000-Happy lol. You're more into getting those quick bursts of satisfaction and can see a phelora of different ladies as you get more disposable income as you age. I remember early 20s when finding out about the hobby it was amazing since it was pretty much on-demand and justinflation hadn't taken root yet haha. As you get a bit older, you start seeing the same person rotationally and you can have some great sessions with some working ladies. But regardless, it's all a transaction with these relationships. You give up long term love for short term fun; finding 'love' mid 30s is harder than 20s, you may get lucky but you can't force it. Hell you could move to Viet/Thai/China and have all the on-demand love you want lol.

To the basis of your question though, Hinge, Bumble are really big right now. Tinder has kind of transitioned to a more relationship type thing, you'll find hook-ups there if you really search for it. Of course make sure you got those HPV shots (I think over 30s can get em now still?), and play safe as the rates are up there! Go on dates, and enjoy the massages until you're official.

Everyone needs someone in their life. Being alone is nice, but it gets very old and well, alone, after a while. Hence why people call this trade 'companionship'

 

[Hatake]

Dinner and a movie, you are paying everything? Easily close to $200 unless you’re going to McDs. And if you cheap out, zero chance you get laid. You gotta repeat dinner and dance/movie/zoo etc before you get a chance.

Ehhh that sounds a bit inflated based on my own movie and dining experience. Meal for two $60-$80 at like a chain resturant and movie is like $40-$60? Not to say that in itself isn't cheap when you start seeing multiple people or see the same person multiple times.

My friend just got out of a long term relationship and managed to score a makeout session in the first day and getting laid on the 3rd date, though that might be more of an outlier haha.

I guess if you want to guarantee your Return on Investment for the metric of 'getting laid', it is cheaper to guarantee that result by seeing a professional. But if you're able to lock in a good person, much more better ROI for the sex and other benefits as well.

 

[Ditartyn]

When it comes to dating advice, I've got a few thoughts. First off, just be yourself. It sounds simple, but being genuine helps. People can usually tell when you're putting on a show. Another thing is to listen. Show interest in what the other person is saying. It goes a long way and makes them feel valued.Also, don’t stress too much about making everything perfect. Sometimes, the best moments happen when things go a bit off-script. Just keep it light and fun! If you're looking for more tips, you might want to check out https://tosituhma.cоm/ . It's got some solid insights that could help you navigate the dating scene.

 

[Old Fart]

When it comes to dating advice, I've got a few thoughts. First off, just be yourself. It sounds simple, but being genuine helps. People can usually tell when you're putting on a show. Another thing is to listen. Show interest in what the other person is saying. It goes a long way and makes them feel valued.

Most intelligent comment on this thread. Actually, most threads.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Being in love is great for about two years, and then those feelings change. That can be a good thing if a couple still like each other, are committed to each other's well being and happiness, and have the maturity to keep the relationship healthy and balanced. Or a bad thing if each partner acts in their own interest most of the time. Most couples find a middle ground that they can live with, but grow to resent their partners. Can't live with them, can't live without them. It would be better if marriage was not forever, but a contract that was up for renewal every couple of years. Given that living arrangements, assets, and children can be involved, this is difficult to do. If AI and robots take over all work and we can all live independently on a universal basic income, it will change the nature of committed relationships. I can see that happening in the next few decades, but I think it will be quite a while before robots replace partners.

It is easier in the hobby world. You might still have some heartbreak and disappointment (I chose my handle well, I can be an Idiot), but after a little grieving you move on to new experiences, often better ones, and you learn some lessons - hobby maturity.