Anyone else hobby because they have an irrational fear that they can't cope with the loss of a loved one?

[Jayjay1]

I've lived with both my parents for the longest time and I've always been terrified of losing them, in that, should I ever have a police officer knock on my door and tell me that one of them died or my sister comes to work crying and just abruptly lays it on it, the thought of this happening terrifies the living hell out of me and keeps me up at night. Currently living with my sister and I'm constantly paranoid about losing her, my parents got divorced when we were 9 and 10 and she's all I've got, I see and talk to her daily and I don't think I can cope with her passing. I'm still worried about my parents but I think it's more of a rational level of fear now since I'm not living with them anymore. My sister just got engaged and I'm happy for her but also happy that she will he moving out so that I'll have a sort of cushion incase she ... yeah... But then I'll be all alone, I've never lived on my own.

I've never had a long term girlfriend (which is what I'm after), not that I'm not confident or attractive enough but I'm kind of worried about falling in love with someone to where they're now my family and this dreaded cycle repeats itself so I always end relationships after a while.

This is probably the main reason I hobby, I don't recommend anyone my age (23) try hobbying but I don't know anyway else I can get intimate with someone, it's addictive and it really makes you feel broke, whatever money I have goes towards it. I've been spa sober for over 100 days and I don't actually get urges as much but I feel like they're going to be like a switch, the moment spas open I'm probably going to get terrible cravings...sigh...


Anyone wanna share some deep thoughts? PM me if you don't want it public.

 

[cupcrazy]

Sometimes we are reluctant to face changes especially dramatic ones. it is a good opportunity to learn to be more independent. When things open, talk to a therapist and let him/her to guide you through your anxiety

 

[Dotanuki]

I've lived with both my parents for the longest time and I've always been terrified of losing them, in that, should I ever have a police officer knock on my door and tell me that one of them died or my sister comes to work crying and just abruptly lays it on it, the thought of this happening terrifies the living hell out of me and keeps me up at night. Currently living with my sister and I'm constantly paranoid about losing her, my parents got divorced when we were 9 and 10 and she's all I've got, I see and talk to her daily and I don't think I can cope with her passing. I'm still worried about my parents but I think it's more of a rational level of fear now since I'm not living with them anymore. My sister just got engaged and I'm happy for her but also happy that she will he moving out so that I'll have a sort of cushion incase she ... yeah... But then I'll be all alone, I've never lived on my own.

I've never had a long term girlfriend (which is what I'm after), not that I'm not confident or attractive enough but I'm kind of worried about falling in love with someone to where they're now my family and this dreaded cycle repeats itself so I always end relationships after a while.

This is probably the main reason I hobby, I don't recommend anyone my age (23) try hobbying but I don't know anyway else I can get intimate with someone, it's addictive and it really makes you feel broke, whatever money I have goes towards it. I've been spa sober for over 100 days and I don't actually get urges as much but I feel like they're going to be like a switch, the moment spas open I'm probably going to get terrible cravings...sigh...


Anyone wanna share some deep thoughts? PM me if you don't want it public.

PM's would be a much better format gauging the overall maturity and sensitivity found in the forum.

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[kittyhound69]

I hobby because I love, and I mean love To bang spinner Yonge tight Asian girls , women . Just love it. No attachments wse.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

I've lived with both my parents for the longest time and I've always been terrified of losing them, in that, should I ever have a police officer knock on my door and tell me that one of them died or my sister comes to work crying and just abruptly lays it on it, the thought of this happening terrifies the living hell out of me and keeps me up at night. Currently living with my sister and I'm constantly paranoid about losing her, my parents got divorced when we were 9 and 10 and she's all I've got, I see and talk to her daily and I don't think I can cope with her passing. I'm still worried about my parents but I think it's more of a rational level of fear now since I'm not living with them anymore. My sister just got engaged and I'm happy for her but also happy that she will he moving out so that I'll have a sort of cushion incase she ... yeah... But then I'll be all alone, I've never lived on my own.

I've never had a long term girlfriend (which is what I'm after), not that I'm not confident or attractive enough but I'm kind of worried about falling in love with someone to where they're now my family and this dreaded cycle repeats itself so I always end relationships after a while.

This is probably the main reason I hobby, I don't recommend anyone my age (23) try hobbying but I don't know anyway else I can get intimate with someone, it's addictive and it really makes you feel broke, whatever money I have goes towards it. I've been spa sober for over 100 days and I don't actually get urges as much but I feel like they're going to be like a switch, the moment spas open I'm probably going to get terrible cravings...sigh...


Anyone wanna share some deep thoughts? PM me if you don't want it public.

Cats tend to be indoor or outdoor creatures. Cats that are free to go outside live in danger of being hit by cars, getting into fights with other cats, being harassed by dogs, but they learn to be independent, enjoy their freedom and explore the world around them. Some die young, most get into scrapes, but they live life. Cats that are kept indoors all they time become timid little creatures who live in fear and do not do much. It is better to be an outdoor cat. You will make mistakes, you will not avoid pain, but you will survive, get stronger and learn.

The second point I will make is that before committing to marrying or living with someone you should grow up first. If not your partner will become your mother. Men are usually not ready for marriage until their careers are established. Any well paid job with a good future is going to require serious dedication for a few years to get up to a good level of productivity and specialized skills. During that time dating/hobbying is okay but career should come first.

 

[snoopdoggie]

Cats tend to be indoor or outdoor creatures. Cats that are free to go outside live in danger of being hit by cars, getting into fights with other cats, being harassed by dogs, but they learn to be independent, enjoy their freedom and explore the world around them. Some die young, most get into scrapes, but they live life. Cats that are kept indoors all they time become timid little creatures who live in fear and do not do much. It is better to be an outdoor cat. You will make mistakes, you will not avoid pain, but you will survive, get stronger and learn.

The second point I will make is that before committing to marrying or living with someone you should grow up first. If not your partner will become your mother. Men are usually not ready for marriage until their careers are established. Any well paid job with a good future is going to require serious dedication for a few years to get up to a good level of productivity and specialized skills. During that time dating/hobbying is okay but career should come first.

Good speech. I agree with you. But what about men that marry men? Do their partners then become their mothers still, or fathers instead? This new same-sex marriage thing has me all confused.

 

[luvnewpussy]

Don't kid yourself , civilan relationships have their own set of problems. Your young. Focus on finding yourself and something your passionate about. Build your skill...never...I mean never..LOOK for love or a relationship. Those things must naturally occur. Invest in yourself.
Fuck spa girls when you get the urge but not before you take care of your self. Make it a reward vs just a habit.